Remember Your Strengths

When people think of therapy, they generally think of talking to a therapist about things in life that they are needing to change. Whether it’s overcoming anxiety, relationship issues, low self-confidence, trauma, unhelpful behaviors, or something in between, therapy is generally thought of as a step toward resolving a problem in life.

While I would agree that a major component of therapy is taking a step toward addressing issues in life, there is another essential component of therapy that is often overlooked: focusing on the strengths.

Focusing on the strengths is something that can unfortunately be easily overlooked, but it is an essential part of successful therapy. It’s our unique strengths that are key to overcoming life’s challenges, and that serve as the basis of our resilience.

So if you find yourself stuck this week, I encourage you to try this quick 5-minute exercise: get out a pen and a piece of paper and jot down a list of your strengths.

For some, this can be a challenging exercise to get started with. Maybe your self-esteem has taken a hit, or you’ve been feeling stuck in the negative. Or perhaps you’ve never really paused to consider your strengths before. But I promise you – you have amazing, unique strengths that are an essential part of who you are. Here are a list of questions to help you get started in identifying your strengths:


·      What are the things you’re good at?

·      When you think of moments from the past that make you feel proud and accomplished, what are the skills and traits you have that really shined through in those moments?

·      If someone were to ask your best friend what they love about you, what would your best friend say?

·      What are the things that people compliment you on?

·      If you could describe yourself in 3 words, how would you describe yourself? What are the positive words, and why did you choose those?

Do this exercise as often as you’d like. You may even want to fold up this piece of paper and stick it in your pocket or your wallet so you can remind yourself of all your awesomeness throughout your day.

There’s no one else in the world with your exact life experiences, your exact personality, your exact mind – your strengths are a part of what make you, you.

If you’re a young adult looking for a therapist in St. Paul, MN, feel free to schedule a 20-minute phone consultation with me to learn more about what it’s like working with me in therapy.

Chelsey Wirtz